Hard Rock Hotel, San Diego, October 2019

Hard Rock Hotel
San Diego, CA
October 19, 2019

In all of the time I have spent in the Gaslamp area in Dowtown San Diego, this was the first time staying at the Hard Rock Hotel. 

The Hard Rock is in the perfect location if you are attending a conference at the convention center, attending any event downtown or even in town for a Padres game. 

We were attending an event at the Marriott which is right behind the Hard Rock. So we decided to go with the cooler hotel!  The Hard Rock Hotel has a bar and it has restaurants, but it does not have the standard Hard Rock Cafe.

At one point the Hard Rock Cafe was in a separate building, but it has closed. Now it is just the Hard Rock Hotel.

If you are in the area, check it out. The hotel has some very cool memorabilia on display throughout.

The Difference Between ChildFree Men and ChildFree Women

The Difference Between ChildFree Men and ChildFree Women

Has anyone but me ever noticed how different friendships are between men and women? 

My husband will tell me about a coworker or friend or cousin, and I ask him the standard questions, Married? Kids? Frequently, my husband will say he doesn't know. WHY? Because it does not come up and it has no bearing on their friendship status.  

When women meet, even if we have no real friendship interest in the other, we will ask the standard questions, Married? Kids?  The answer to those questions determines quite a bit with women. Some insecure married women do not like to be friends with single women.  

When women are friends, it is pretty much accepted that the children will be part of the friendship. Coffee? Wine? Lunch? Movie? Yeap, the kids will be there for all of it. The only way that activities are not including the kids is when they are in school or maybe at a sport or activity. 

For men, they can be friends for years, hang out, do stuff together, spend lots of time together and never even MEET the other guy's kids. Why? 

Why are men given a kid free pass and women are not?  

The Navy Ball, October 12, 2019

San Diego Navy Birthday Ball

We attended the San Diego Navy Birthday Ball on Saturday,  October 12, 2019.

It was held at the Manchester Grand Hyatt at Seaport Village, San Diego.

The event was very good. We have been to quite a few Military balls over the years, but this was the first Navy Birthday Ball in San Diego.  

The food was very good. I really enjoyed how the gift was a coaster. It goes perfectly with all of the other wine glasses from other events.

The Seafood Market, San Pedro

The Seafood Market
San Pedro, CA

Sept 16, 2019

My husband's ship had to visit Naval Station Seal Beach. So I decided to drive up from San Diego to Seal Beach so we could go out to dinner. 

After a little research, my husband picked going to the Seafood Market in San Pedro. We just knew the seafood would be amazingly fresh. 

The menu and the "famous shrimp tray" weren't exactly what we thought. But we had driven there, so we decided to go ahead and eat there. We got the famous shrimp tray and some other steamed shellfish. 

As an East Coast person, the shrimp on the shrimp tray was seasoned weird. Like a Tex Mex kinda seasoning. 

Have these people never heard of Old Bay????

It was fine for the evening, but I definitely would not recommend it to anyone, or go there again. 

It was just like a weird attempt at making shrimp. We were expecting steamed or boiled shrimp, and it was more like stir fried with oil peppers and onions. 

VERY OILY.

San Diego Padres, Fan Rewards Month, September 2019

San Diego Padres, Fan Rewards Month
September 2019

As part of Fan Rewards Month, the San Diego Padres have several unique opportunities for the Compadres Members.

One of the opportunities is Compadres Signings. 

Outfielder Josh Naylor was the first.

The Child Free Lonely Life

The Child Free Lonely, Friendless Life

I've known since childhood that having children was not something that I ever, ever wanted to do. I honestly do not understand why people do it voluntarily. 
I had no idea when I was a child and I made the decision to never have children that it would cause me to lead a lonely life with little to no friends due to my choice.

As children, we don't really have many barriers to making friends with other kids. We end up playing with kids in our neighborhood, or becoming friends with kids in our class or maybe on our sports team or church. There really are no barriers in the eyes of the children. Parents will inherently put their own boundaries when they dislike something about a child or parent. I really can't say my parents ever refused to let me be friends with someone. I can remember in high school my sister and I were friends with a particular girl and her dad decided that she should not be friends with either of us because we were "nothing but trouble". The irony is both my sister and I graduated, went to college and have careers. The "friend" dropped out and ended up in jail. 

I typically made friends with people that I worked with, or people that I met through other activities. Work friends, normally no matter how strong, end up slowing down when you no longer work together. When I was younger and unmarried, I didn't really think too much about my decision to not have children. No one around me really had children unless they were older and married.  I made friends from college, work, or other places and it wasn't really an issue. As I got older, mid to late 20s, people I knew were getting married and having children. I started to notice that when someone I knew had a child, suddenly the friendship was over. They never had time anymore for whatever we had enjoyed together. After the kids came, we were simply coworkers and really no longer friends. I didn't really let it bother me because there were plenty of other people around me and I stayed busy.

Now, as a 44 year old, military wife, I feel like I am on an island. I feel like I do not know anyone in real life who has made the same decision. I have met a couple people close to my age who don't have children. However, each that I know, it is a medical reason why they do not have children, and it is not that they have made the same decision that I made. Or, in the case of one person that I know, she is only 22 and only been married 2 years, so she is officially a "not yet" not like me that is a "not ever".  

I try. Maybe I don't really, but I feel like I try. I try to do things that will allow me to meet other people. But I never ever meet anyone in real life that is Child Free like I am. I "know" a few people online from online groups. But as far as like a "real" person, someone I have spoken to in real life, nope, no I don't have anyone I know. 

San Diego is a city of 1.4 million people. I cannot POSSIBLY be the only person in San Diego who wants nothing to do with kids.  It feels like I am.  I have decided since the husband and I are not going to be in San Diego for much longer that I am pretty much just giving up on finding friends. I will have my few acquaintances, but the majority of my time, I am my only friend. 

Honestly, most of the time it is OK. I like to be very independent and I am definitely not the Navy Wife who can't function on duty day. I enjoy going to movies or concerts or other things by myself. I like setting my own schedule. Even though, I am the type that enjoys being alone, sometimes it is really nice to just have another person to talk to. However, with women, being friends means that you are going to have to deal with their children. Men can go and do what they want with out having to worry about dragging kids along, but women cannot. It is super frustrating for me.

Basically, I decided that I am not even gone to pursue trying to be friends with someone with kids at home. I just can't. I do not want what little bit of friend time to be run over with screaming kids. It leaves me in a weird position because I am still on a island, I am still not making friends, but I don't know how to deal with it all. 

San Diego Padres at the LA Dodgers, Saturday, August 3, 2019

San Diego Padres at the
LA Dodgers

First time at Dodger Stadium

One of my goals as a baseball fan is to visit all 30 MLB Parks. My first MLB Stadium was when I went to Camden Yards to see the Baltimore Orioles. Years ago when I worked for a different company, I had a vendor take me to Baltimore. There was a conference in Baltimore and we met the night before and went to the game. 

Until that point I had only been to a AAA Ball Park, so I was really impressed. In the past couple of years with me sort of "getting into" baseball and specifically the San Diego Padres I decided to try to visit a few other parks 

In July, I was in Kansas City, MO for a conference and I went to the Royals Stadium for a game. The trip to Dodgers stadium was my 3rd MLB stadium for the year. Dodger stadium is definitely OLD. From what I understand there are renovations planned for this off season, so I will definitely have to go back and see what changes.

I guess being a Padres fan and going to that stadium the most, I am shocked when I see an MLB park that seems to be so behind. It seemed that there was quite a few broken chairs and such near where we were. The part of the stadium where we went seemed really unfriendly for the handicapped. We could not find a ramp or elevator, so I had to really struggle with the steps and my bad knee. 

There could have been another way, but we didn't see any other way to get to our seating area.

I will say this about the LA Dodger stadium fans, no one really spoke to us at all. Which surprised me because I have been around some really RUDE LA fans at the Padres stadium. We had a good time at a the game. I can say that I had a Dodger Dog. Honestly, its not much different than a Friar Frank. They had these huge nachos they served in a Dodger helmet. I swear about 4 groups of people had these nachos near us. They smelled so good. 

We enjoyed ourselves at the game. I don't know if I will will go back for another game next season. Maybe next season I will focus on trying to go to the Angels or take a trip somewhere else like San Francisco or Phoenix.